Things women love ( and want you to do more of)
1 Saying Thank You
Most women probably only notice this one once they
date someone who says it, but a man who says thank you for the things
we're surprised to be thanked for (calling, grabbing you a soda from the
fridge, dressing up) is a keeper. Not only does it show you're
considerate but it shows you don't take us for granted. Which, guys, is a
big big relationship killer. Don't do it. Ever.
2 Leading Us Through A Crowd
There is nothing that makes us melt more than
feeling that you want to protect us. Not getting into fights over us
with other guys or insisting on seeing us everyday -- that becomes
obsessive. But putting a hand on the lower back or taking our hand to
lead us through a crowded area makes us feel like you're concerning
yourself with our presence. This makes us feel like you're there for us
in both the very plainly physical and mental sense of the phrase.
3 Letting Us Sleep
How many times have you watch a movie on date and your girlfriend/the girl you're seeing/a girl (we're going general
here) falls asleep in your lap or on the couch next to you? Chances are,
when the movie ends, you're wondering what you're supposed to do with
us. Hint: don't wake us up. Instead, grab a pillow and lift our head up a
little and place the pillow underneath so we can keep sleeping
comfortably. Or, if you're sleeping over and getting up before us, pick
your clothes out the night before so you don't have to turn on the light
to wake us up. When we so wake up we'll feel like you've put us first.
4 Hugging From Behind And Kissing (On The Forehead, Nose, Cheek)
Forehead kisses. Cheek kisses. Nose kisses. We don't
need an all-out make-out session in order to feel that you're into us.
In fact, sometimes we'd prefer not to have one. Instead, these
sweet little pecks will show us you want us close (and you're feeling
close to us) without it being all about sex. Likewise, when you put your
arm around us or rub our arm, that intimate yet non-sexual contact
makes us feel closer to you. Also of note: hugging from behind around
the waist. Put your face in our neck while you're doing that and we're
all yours.
5 Helping Us With Our jacket
Helping us with our jacket might be the last remnant of chivalry
that's left and still appropriate in the age of do-it-ourselves
womanhood. It also remains a surprising enough (maybe sadly) gesture
that it will impress the woman you're with; it's not expected anymore.
So it will make you look like a gentleman while not seeming
conservative. Same with opening doors. In a committed relationship:
pulling back the covers and inviting us into bed with you. It's such a
simple gesture of warmth and love.
6 Doing The Dishes
No, we're not saying it's glamorous. But we're not
asking you to cook (just kidding, we are - once in a while). Really,
though, when you do the dishes after we've cooked a nice meal, it feels
like you appreciate us and what we did. It's one thing to simply say
'thank you' and quite another to do something that shows us
you're thankful. Any guy who eats our food and then parks himself on the
couch for the latest football game is going to get an earful, anyway.
Also, we'll do the same for you when you cook. And if we don't, we
expect an earful as well.
7 Noticing (And Complimenting) The Little Things
Just saying something like, "you look really beautiful today" goes a long way. A lot of women put effort into the little details of their appearance -- makeup, hair, nails, etc. Women that don't put effort into the aforementioned things probably put it into something else you're well able to notice. If you're considerate enough to see we've had our nails done or put on a dress or whatever it is that signifies we've made an effort, it makes us feel good when you verbalise that you notice. Most of the time, we've done whatever it is to feel (and look) pretty so that you'll give us a positive response. Small compliments go a long way.
Doing The Little Things
You've heard it before, no doubt, but while no woman will turn down a bouquet of flowers (and this is much appreciated, always), you don't always have to go to that extreme. It's the little things that show you thought about us, even if for no more than 10 seconds. Grab a sticky note, draw a lopsided heart on it (if we can't draw a good one, we don't expect you to), and stick it in our purse for us to find later. If you're at the supermarket and you see our favourite chocolate bar that we've been craving, grab one. If we're in separate rooms doing things, randomly walk into our room, kiss us on the top of the head, and walk back out. No words required.
9 Cuddling
Sorry, guys, but cuddling is key. Other than science proving time and time again that cuddling reduces streess and releases the feel-good hormone oxytocin, it's a real downer when, right after a session between the sheets, our partner gets right up and goes off to play Grand Theft Auto. Sex should not -- and I repeat not -- make you want to play GTA. It should make you want to cuddle us afterwards and tell us how beautiful we are. So if you end up leaping out of bed to your video game, that same game is what's going to be keeping you warm at night pretty soon.
10 Hello And Goodbye Kisses
Nothing makes us feel at home like goodbye kisses in the morning and hello kisses when we get home (or in whatever order you do it). There's a warm and welcoming effect to this small gesture that says to your partner I'm happy to see you or I'll miss you without actually having to say the words. For those of you who aren't talkers, this will take care of any relationship confusion.